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July 08, 2005
old friends are good friends
I've been talking with some of my old friends in preparation for my and alex's trip to California. I always felt like I grew up faster than the rest of my friends my age, but that's an entirely different story and more like a novel than a story. It's fun and interesting now to watch my friends become "adults." I say "adults" because we aren't becoming adults in the way people used to. Most of us aren't getting married, having kids, settling down in the suburbs or settling for some job where we hope to one day reach partner.
My friends are going back to school, moving to a new city, trying out new jobs, meeting great people that they'll share these journeys with. Instead of settling into a job, they are finding the courage to do what they maybe always wanted to but never got the chance to. I think growing up in Fresno stifled a lot of us. We had to work harder to get out and go after our dreams. We didn't have that many people to look up to. There isn't hardly anything more than a blue collar life style. It's great to see them becoming film makers, buying houses, starting new companies and growing into themselves.
I only keep in touch with about 5-6 people that I knew before becoming an adult (as in our government's standard which is age 21). I only consider about 3 of those as good friends. I talk to them a couple of times a year and if I'm lucky I see them once. This year, I'm dragging them to Fresno to see me (or working on it at least).
I am looking forward to going home. I get homesick sometimes, especially because I don't even have a "home" there anymore. The majority of my family has moved away and none of my friends live there. I can't wait to show alex the drab and boring place that I grew up and have this tumultuous love/hate relationship with. I want him to see the food court at the mall I hung out in as a pre-teen and I especially want him to see the OTC.
Posted by meloknee at July 8, 2005 07:37 PM